Mistakes Working Women Make, Finale

• Not making conscious choices!

Ever notice yourself driving from one destination to another without knowing how you got there?  Ever get on the bus or subway and get so preoccupied with your thoughts and miss your stop?  This is an example of living life unconsciously.  We are focusing so much on either the past or the future, and end up missing the whole “present” experience.

If you stop and take account of your life, you may notice many areas where you are not consciously making a choice, but rather have gotten into a habit of doing things in a certain way. It can be as simple as which foot you put into your shoe first, who gets served first at the dinner table, or whether you wash your face or brush your teeth first. These are all habits you have gotten into. Most of these habits are harmless and indifferent to you, but there are probably some that may be inconsistent with your goals and aspirations. Notice them and then you can choose to do something else! What can you do instead?

• Not having a Life Plan!

In Alice in Wonderland, the Cheshire Cat comes to a fork in the road and Alice asks if she should take the left fork or the right. When the Cheshire Cat asks Alice where she’s going, Alice says “I don’t know.” The Cheshire cat responds “then I guess it doesn’t matter.”   

Where are you going?  What is your destination?  If you don’t know your destination or don’t know what you are committed to in your life, you won’t be able to consciously create what you want.  I personally am committed to having awesome and loving relationships and having fun every step of the way.  I am committed to the quote:

“Life is not about going to the grave with a well-preserved body but rather skidding in a

broadside, totally used up by yelling ‘wow, what a ride!’”

I organize my life in accordance with what I am committed to. When I engage in an activity, I often check to see if it is in alignment with what I want.

You are where you are now as a result of the choices that you have made. If you want something different, you have to create a life plan that is consistent with what you want and declare it.

So what are you committed to? Drop me an email and let me know what your life vision is!

Iris Benrubi is a Business and Life Coach who specializes in working with Women Entrepreneurs.  To contact Iris, please e-mail her at iris(at)simplysuccess(dot)ca or call 905-709-8185.